When to listen and when to talk

Who else agrees that having awareness over when to talk and when to listen is one of the most important skills we can master, especially when having a conversation with someone. But how do you know when to stay silent and listen carefully, and when it’s time to ask questions or offer advice? It’s a tricky balance.

We know when we talk less, we actually allow ourselves to take more in and be more considered with what we say next. However It’s not always easy, especially when you’re itching to have your say. But when we manage to truly listen, it can have a profound impact on the person who is wanting to be heard.

The art of listening

While someone shares their thoughts and feelings, often the most helpful response is to provide space by listening. Also remember listening isn’t just about what they say. It’s about not passing judgement, taking note of their body language and facial expressions and sitting at ease – remember this is their story and everyone’s experience is unique, so try to understand what they tell you and why they have chosen to speak.

We dont need to solve anything

When it is your turn to speak, you don’t need to offer advice or have all the answers. It is simply your turn to ask great questions that allow them to further explore their story and why they may be feeling the way they feel.  Instead consider statements like.

• “Would you like to talk about that more…”
• “I’m curious, could their be another way you could look at…”
• “What do you think it was about…”
• “How did that make you feel…”

Being a mindful listener is welcomed by all, and when done right can make a massive difference to someone going through a tough time.

When was the last time you listened to someone? Really listened, without thinking about what you wanted to say next, glancing down at your phone or jumping in to offer your opinion?

Why not try it next time you find yourself deep in conversation with someone! Give it a go! Talk less. See if you can ask great questions that allow the other person to talk more!

I have no doubt you will enjoy the experience and may even be a little surprised where the conversation goes and what new things you learn!

That is it from me today, I hope you have a calm and restful day, one that brings you joy. One free from anxiety and as Positivity and Happiness are Contagious… Start your own Happiness ripple today!